Monday, February 5, 2018

No Fear ~ Blossoming into a new Perspective

Fear Is A Big Barrier

I can't tell you how many times I've been afraid in my life. However, due to where I lived, and how I responded was life, death or depression, I tended to close my eyes and press forward. I did it because truthfully, I had no choice. Fear was my enemy, but also an awesome tool that hindered me from great harm, or catapulted me to a greater path.

Assess The Fear and Use Or Overcome it

Many times when battling an opponent like fear, we have time to assess and calculate where it's coming from. Other times, we are thrust into a situation where fear hits us in seconds and we don't have time to do anything but react. Practicing how to react to fear is important in all situations. When people are taught martial arts, they are taught to react naturally to the immediate threat of fear. Lightening quick and reaction to the situation almost immediately. They practice everyday, and then fear becomes an ignition to the best possible reaction to a probable situation.

Learning to Fight Fear

You can learn the skills to fight your fear. Accepting that you are afraid, but forging on inspite of it. Allow your fear to fuel your catapult. Control your irrational response. Deep breaths will calm your body response and clear your mind. Figure out ways that you can attack the different types and causes of fears.

Don't be afraid of fear, You have the tools to Conquer It!

Monday, January 22, 2018

When Is IT ever Enough?


Many people seek to bloom dreams that equal great financial wealth. And yes, having money does provide some comforts that not having money can't buy.

I have had many friends over time that have battled debt, broken relationships, struggled through massive heartache and abuse. Despite those things, they rose to a comfortable standard of living and gained money that allowed a good living.

However, the money, status, homes, and cars, never fulfilled their heart ~ their souls.


Ask yourself where your happy place is? Mine is when I feel love, express love and am surrounded by love. My other happy place, is when my belly is full, can travel, and am healthy. None of those things I am willing to give up ~ and all of them are things that I don't have to have money to obtain.

What is enough for you?

Monday, January 8, 2018

The Choice to Be Happy

What Does It Mean To Be Happy?

It's an attitude, a perspective on things. Can you change that? Are you willing too? That's a question I ask myself every now and then. I remind myself to relax, pinpoint my mind on things that make me smile, fill my presence with those things, pick them out of the mess of the day.

A mind and heart is a powerful thing, when we use it to turn our mood, make a smile in spite of sadness, and to consider the ways we can turn our situation around.


It is all the more sweeter when you have the balance of sadness, anger, boredom, stepping in and out. When happiness comes in the room, it will be appreciated and savored.

CONTENTEDNESS is the calm sea that breeds HAPPY MOMENTS

Between those moments we claim, wrestle and that make us feel the euphoria of happiness, being content gives you a comfort and peace that is as fulfilling as the seeking of fulfillment.


Make yourself laugh. I personally love comedy. It makes me happy which is why I married a man that is hilarious when he wants to be, which is most of the time. Our date night is usually a comedy or fun action packed movie. When we were scraping nickles together we made it a point to splurge on these.

Thursday, December 21, 2017

Reflect On Your Year, Growth, Setbacks To Step Up

Reflect, then Step

Every year since I was a teen, I used December as a time to reflect. I believe it started when my grandmother died. That year was so hard for me since she had been like a 2nd mother to me all of my life.

She died in December, just days before Christmas. It was significant. A time of joy, hope, and I lost her. That year she left, was hard. I promised myself I would survive it.

I did, ONE STEP at A TIME until I got to the NEXT level then the NEXT.


Do your reflection in strength, with knowing that all the challenges were tools to make you stronger, to give you something to learn about yourself, and that you are here, to do a better turn of your challenges next year.

Then let the emotions spill, flush, cleanse you of this year. This year for me was very difficult. I don't want to forget the losses or the gains. I want to gather up those stones to build my NEXT STEP.


Sure, everyone starts with a New Years resolution. This time, start with a NEW YOU resolution. Take one of those losses and ask yourself what you can learn from it, how you want to grow from it. Then take one of your gains, and smile at that, be thankful for it.

Then...step towards your next level.

Monday, November 27, 2017

Guru Talk? Do You Need a Cheerleader?


Are you a natural cheerleader? I know I love the song, 'Oh I think that I found myself a cheerleader' by Omi. I realized that I was a natural cheerleader. Many of my friends and family considered me a 'glass half full' type of person. However, I did consider the portion that was empty.


My biggest challenge, was do cheer myself on. Since I did have a hopeful spirit, I also had a side of myself that considered the risk, the possible failure, and it made me VERY cautious in cheering myself onward unless I felt the likelyhood of success was high.

So I had to learn to cheer myself on. (1) I would repeat a 'You can do this!' to myself when I woke up, when I brushed my teeth, when I had boring spaces in thought (2) I would position myself to be around positive thinking people, they teach you the skills of cheering yourself on (3) I would change my mindset to focus on the possibilities and not the possible failures.


Today I challenge you, to change your down talk, fears, into possibilities by cheering yourself on. Every time you say 'Can't' say 'Will'. 

Monday, November 6, 2017

Why You Should Not Take No for An Answer

I NEVER DID like that word NO

It's funny how the world most successful people never took 'NO' for an answer. They always came up with innovative ways to make their passion and dreams come true.


Yes, we all were. Some people intuitively never listen to their benefit and their detriment. Well it's time you free yourself from the binds of that word.

Evaluate your life goals and plan your way around the 'NO'.


There are many times I worked out in my mind how I was going to accomplish a task that appeared to have every door closed.

One was a recent accomplishment of owning my own publishing company with my husband during a time when publishing and small press publishers were frowned upon. It was hard to get taken seriously, it was not fun getting all the rejection. However, in spite of all of those 'NOs', I found my YES, YES and YES.

Now owning a small press that has helped other authors, want to be publishers, and dreamers reach their star, I can honestly say, I am grateful for being born with a hard head that didn't absorb other's negative barriers, but found ways around them.


Friday, October 27, 2017

New Website and Workshops

Empowered Steps is planning some great things for 2018! New workshops and motivational events surrounding family, career, business building and dream making.

Join us.