Monday, May 6, 2019

Overcoming the Challenges of a Female Video Gamer

Overcoming the Challenges of a Female Video Gamer

By LM Preston, author of Building Your Empowered Steps and Homeschooling Homeschooling and Working While Shaping Amazing Learners
 www.empoweredsteps.com
My youngest daughter has always been a video game fanatic, much like her father who she would play with endlessly as a child. When she was in 6th grade, I started homeschooling her, asking her if there was one thing she could do all day what it would be. She, like me, had many aspects of herself she wanted to explore. However, the first was, play and develop video games.
GAMEPLAY ANONYMOUSLY
Since she was a teen, we allowed her to create her game persona with and name that could either represent a male or a female. Since I was an engineer, in a male dominated world, I knew the implied bias towards females and didn’t want her to deal with that as a teen. She was never to talk to anyone online, and we had her set up where we could watch her play. She loved that. Everyone loves an audience, especially a gamer. In addition to playing games, she started watching others play them, researching game development companies, absorbing information on the industry and growing in her knowledge of the field she desired to pursue.
In an industry that is known for bullying female game players and developers, we wanted her to be able to feed her interest, improve her skills, in a safe and fun way. Then find her path to changing the tides.
TURNING YOUR PASSION INTO A BUSINESS
Starting out as a female game developer seemed a fun idea and career path for my daughter. We decided to take her to some game developer conferences to talk to other females about the field. We were surprised to learn that the video game industry is one of the most vicious industries for women in engineering and programming fields do to the bullying and bias of the field towards women. It’s a surprising fact, considering that women initially led up key components in the software engineering and game development industry in its infancy.
My daughter, nor I, would give up. Instead she decided to one day work towards creating her own games, designing her artwork for them and writing the scripts. Then she would hire out the other aspects. Changing the industry by creating their own opportunities is the way in which women can impact the bias and bullying in the field.
Instead of depending on an industry to give you a way in, creating your own way, with your own rules is the best solution to turn the tides.
TIDES ARE CHANGING
With the conference bringing to light the bias in the industry, and more women taking the hits, and paving the way, there is a slow wave of change that is allowing more women to be integrated. It is also causing more males that had the ‘boys only’ philosophy and unconscious bias against female co-workers to respect the fact that the landscape is changing.
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Monday, April 1, 2019

Sometimes We Dream, We Do, We Change Directions


MY TRIP TO AUSTRALIA and NEW ZEALAND
was a DREAM COME TRUE


Sometimes We Dream, We Do, We Change Directions

SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO TRY ON A DREAM 
Just to see if we like it.


MY DREAM TO BE A TRAVEL WRITER

Yes, I used to dream about being a travel writer. I followed this travel show starring SAMANTHA BROWN and I was hooked.

Actually, I believe it started when I was a kid and watched the Brady Bunch, a family of twelve that went to Hawaii. That planted the seed.

THE FIRST TIME I LEFT MY BUBBLE was WITH MY SINGLE MOM

My mother, who was a teen single mom when she had me, worked hard to get my brother and I through private schools. The first trip I took out of state was to Italy. I was lucky enough to get a scholarship and my mom worked extra hours at one of her jobs to pay for the rest. She started a spark in me and love of travel at that moment. I went on a fourteen-day trip that changed my life for the better and made me truly believe that sometimes, just sometimes dreams come true. 

MY HUSBAND GOT ON BOARD

He asked me to marry him and I told him I wanted an adventurous life. Boy, did he ever deliver. He has been my driver, adventure partner, ride or die, best friend and body guard through our travels with four kids.

DOING IT

I dabbled and created a family and friend newsletter of sorts when we started traveling as a family. We’d go somewhere every month by road trips, then upped the game to include week long road trips, then three to four-week trips and finally to flights, and cruising. We pretty much stuck with the international family travel by cruise only since it was easier and payment was simple.

-       I planned the trips, wrote newsletters, created video books
-       I started a travel business
-       I helped others plan their travel

And let me tell you, I learned so much. Mostly, that traveling isn’t perfect, it can be stressful, but oh boy, is it fun!

CHANGING DIRECTIONS

After the newsletter, and traveling with the kids for awhile, I realized, I loved to travel, but the video editing, photo editing, write-ups, details, trip plans, and all that went with it, sucked the fun out of the experience for me. Since this was my personal passion that bought me pleasure in being with my family while experiencing new places, I decided I would only focus on that experience. The time and effort that took away from something I enjoyed wasn’t worth the personal cost for me.

THE EXPERIENCE IN ITSELF is LIFE CHANGING

Always see to try, experience, grow through accomplishing what you are interested in and passionate about. Then realize that it’s okay, to keep the experience and the focus on your own personal pleasure from the experience.

-It’s benefits in trying it on for size
-It’s benefits in changing a course
-It’s benefits in saying, I’ve been there
-It’s benefits in saying, I don’t want to share this, it’s just for me
-It’s benefits in saying, I tried it, but I didn’t like all of it, I didn’t like it at all – but now I know for myself

WHAT HAVE YOU TRIED ON FOR SIZE? AND FOUND IT FIT? IT DIDN’T FIT? IT WAS FUN, but you are ONE and DONE.


Thursday, January 17, 2019

Make Dreams Into Reality, Piece By Piece




You ever wonder if you could climb that mountain if you just considered concentrating on that ONE STEP at A TIME.

CAN'T CONCEIVE THE BIG DREAM?

That was me, for a long time. The burden of all the steps to make my goals become a reality was just to much to consider and was really overwhelming.

This is a major trip up for many people. They have anxiety at thinking of all they things they have to do in order to meet their goals.

START WITH ONE STEP AT A TIME

This is the meat and potatoes to personal accomplishments. Focus only on the one step in front of you. Then take the next and the next. Each time, it gets easier, the challenges - heck, you've seen them before and are knocking them down like a practiced warrior. Once you have the hang of each one step at a time, then you can start to conceive and feel more confident taking that next BIG DREAM or GOAL on with the precision of planning.

ROME WASN'T BUILT IN A DAY

I love that saying! It is a funny reminder that progression and big endeavors take time, planning, and consistency.

Monday, February 5, 2018

No Fear ~ Blossoming into a new Perspective



Fear Is A Big Barrier

I can't tell you how many times I've been afraid in my life. However, due to where I lived, and how I responded was life, death or depression, I tended to close my eyes and press forward. I did it because truthfully, I had no choice. Fear was my enemy, but also an awesome tool that hindered me from great harm, or catapulted me to a greater path.

Assess The Fear and Use Or Overcome it

Many times when battling an opponent like fear, we have time to assess and calculate where it's coming from. Other times, we are thrust into a situation where fear hits us in seconds and we don't have time to do anything but react. Practicing how to react to fear is important in all situations. When people are taught martial arts, they are taught to react naturally to the immediate threat of fear. Lightening quick and reaction to the situation almost immediately. They practice everyday, and then fear becomes an ignition to the best possible reaction to a probable situation.

Learning to Fight Fear

You can learn the skills to fight your fear. Accepting that you are afraid, but forging on inspite of it. Allow your fear to fuel your catapult. Control your irrational response. Deep breaths will calm your body response and clear your mind. Figure out ways that you can attack the different types and causes of fears.

Don't be afraid of fear, You have the tools to Conquer It!

Monday, January 22, 2018

When Is IT ever Enough?


THE ROAD TO TRUE WEALTH
MAY BE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE

Many people seek to bloom dreams that equal great financial wealth. And yes, having money does provide some comforts that not having money can't buy.

I have had many friends over time that have battled debt, broken relationships, struggled through massive heartache and abuse. Despite those things, they rose to a comfortable standard of living and gained money that allowed a good living.

However, the money, status, homes, and cars, never fulfilled their heart ~ their souls.

WHAT IS ENOUGH?

Ask yourself where your happy place is? Mine is when I feel love, express love and am surrounded by love. My other happy place, is when my belly is full, can travel, and am healthy. None of those things I am willing to give up ~ and all of them are things that I don't have to have money to obtain.

What is enough for you?



Monday, January 8, 2018

The Choice to Be Happy


What Does It Mean To Be Happy?

It's an attitude, a perspective on things. Can you change that? Are you willing too? That's a question I ask myself every now and then. I remind myself to relax, pinpoint my mind on things that make me smile, fill my presence with those things, pick them out of the mess of the day.

A mind and heart is a powerful thing, when we use it to turn our mood, make a smile in spite of sadness, and to consider the ways we can turn our situation around.

HAPPINESS is a FLEETING EMOTION

It is all the more sweeter when you have the balance of sadness, anger, boredom, stepping in and out. When happiness comes in the room, it will be appreciated and savored.

CONTENTEDNESS is the calm sea that breeds HAPPY MOMENTS

Between those moments we claim, wrestle and that make us feel the euphoria of happiness, being content gives you a comfort and peace that is as fulfilling as the seeking of fulfillment.

TURN THAT FROWN UPSIDE DOWN

Make yourself laugh. I personally love comedy. It makes me happy which is why I married a man that is hilarious when he wants to be, which is most of the time. Our date night is usually a comedy or fun action packed movie. When we were scraping nickles together we made it a point to splurge on these.

Thursday, December 21, 2017

Reflect On Your Year, Growth, Setbacks To Step Up


Reflect, then Step

Every year since I was a teen, I used December as a time to reflect. I believe it started when my grandmother died. That year was so hard for me since she had been like a 2nd mother to me all of my life.

She died in December, just days before Christmas. It was significant. A time of joy, hope, and I lost her. That year she left, was hard. I promised myself I would survive it.

I did, ONE STEP at A TIME until I got to the NEXT level then the NEXT.

REFLECT

Do your reflection in strength, with knowing that all the challenges were tools to make you stronger, to give you something to learn about yourself, and that you are here, to do a better turn of your challenges next year.

Then let the emotions spill, flush, cleanse you of this year. This year for me was very difficult. I don't want to forget the losses or the gains. I want to gather up those stones to build my NEXT STEP.

THE NEXT LEVEL

Sure, everyone starts with a New Years resolution. This time, start with a NEW YOU resolution. Take one of those losses and ask yourself what you can learn from it, how you want to grow from it. Then take one of your gains, and smile at that, be thankful for it.

Then...step towards your next level.