Monday, May 6, 2019
Monday, April 1, 2019
MY TRIP TO AUSTRALIA and NEW ZEALAND
was a DREAM COME TRUE
Sometimes We Dream, We Do, We Change Directions
SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO TRY ON A DREAM
Just to see if we like it.
MY DREAM TO BE A TRAVEL WRITER
Yes, I used to dream about being a travel writer. I followed this travel show starring SAMANTHA BROWN and I was hooked.
Actually, I believe it started when I was a kid and watched the Brady Bunch, a family of twelve that went to Hawaii. That planted the seed.
THE FIRST TIME I LEFT MY BUBBLE was WITH MY SINGLE MOM
My mother, who was a teen single mom when she had me, worked hard to get my brother and I through private schools. The first trip I took out of state was to Italy. I was lucky enough to get a scholarship and my mom worked extra hours at one of her jobs to pay for the rest. She started a spark in me and love of travel at that moment. I went on a fourteen-day trip that changed my life for the better and made me truly believe that sometimes, just sometimes dreams come true.
MY HUSBAND GOT ON BOARD
He asked me to marry him and I told him I wanted an adventurous life. Boy, did he ever deliver. He has been my driver, adventure partner, ride or die, best friend and body guard through our travels with four kids.
I dabbled and created a family and friend newsletter of sorts when we started traveling as a family. We’d go somewhere every month by road trips, then upped the game to include week long road trips, then three to four-week trips and finally to flights, and cruising. We pretty much stuck with the international family travel by cruise only since it was easier and payment was simple.
- I planned the trips, wrote newsletters, created video books
- I started a travel business
- I helped others plan their travel
And let me tell you, I learned so much. Mostly, that traveling isn’t perfect, it can be stressful, but oh boy, is it fun!
After the newsletter, and traveling with the kids for awhile, I realized, I loved to travel, but the video editing, photo editing, write-ups, details, trip plans, and all that went with it, sucked the fun out of the experience for me. Since this was my personal passion that bought me pleasure in being with my family while experiencing new places, I decided I would only focus on that experience. The time and effort that took away from something I enjoyed wasn’t worth the personal cost for me.
THE EXPERIENCE IN ITSELF is LIFE CHANGING
Always see to try, experience, grow through accomplishing what you are interested in and passionate about. Then realize that it’s okay, to keep the experience and the focus on your own personal pleasure from the experience.
-It’s benefits in trying it on for size
-It’s benefits in changing a course
-It’s benefits in saying, I’ve been there
-It’s benefits in saying, I don’t want to share this, it’s just for me
-It’s benefits in saying, I tried it, but I didn’t like all of it, I didn’t like it at all – but now I know for myself
WHAT HAVE YOU TRIED ON FOR SIZE? AND FOUND IT FIT? IT DIDN’T FIT? IT WAS FUN, but you are ONE and DONE.
Thursday, January 17, 2019
You ever wonder if you could climb that mountain if you just considered concentrating on that ONE STEP at A TIME.
CAN'T CONCEIVE THE BIG DREAM?
That was me, for a long time. The burden of all the steps to make my goals become a reality was just to much to consider and was really overwhelming.
This is a major trip up for many people. They have anxiety at thinking of all they things they have to do in order to meet their goals.
START WITH ONE STEP AT A TIME
This is the meat and potatoes to personal accomplishments. Focus only on the one step in front of you. Then take the next and the next. Each time, it gets easier, the challenges - heck, you've seen them before and are knocking them down like a practiced warrior. Once you have the hang of each one step at a time, then you can start to conceive and feel more confident taking that next BIG DREAM or GOAL on with the precision of planning.
ROME WASN'T BUILT IN A DAY
I love that saying! It is a funny reminder that progression and big endeavors take time, planning, and consistency.
Monday, February 5, 2018
Fear Is A Big Barrier
I can't tell you how many times I've been afraid in my life. However, due to where I lived, and how I responded was life, death or depression, I tended to close my eyes and press forward. I did it because truthfully, I had no choice. Fear was my enemy, but also an awesome tool that hindered me from great harm, or catapulted me to a greater path.
Assess The Fear and Use Or Overcome it
Many times when battling an opponent like fear, we have time to assess and calculate where it's coming from. Other times, we are thrust into a situation where fear hits us in seconds and we don't have time to do anything but react. Practicing how to react to fear is important in all situations. When people are taught martial arts, they are taught to react naturally to the immediate threat of fear. Lightening quick and reaction to the situation almost immediately. They practice everyday, and then fear becomes an ignition to the best possible reaction to a probable situation.
Learning to Fight Fear
You can learn the skills to fight your fear. Accepting that you are afraid, but forging on inspite of it. Allow your fear to fuel your catapult. Control your irrational response. Deep breaths will calm your body response and clear your mind. Figure out ways that you can attack the different types and causes of fears.
Don't be afraid of fear, You have the tools to Conquer It!
Monday, January 22, 2018
THE ROAD TO TRUE WEALTH
MAY BE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE
Many people seek to bloom dreams that equal great financial wealth. And yes, having money does provide some comforts that not having money can't buy.
I have had many friends over time that have battled debt, broken relationships, struggled through massive heartache and abuse. Despite those things, they rose to a comfortable standard of living and gained money that allowed a good living.
However, the money, status, homes, and cars, never fulfilled their heart ~ their souls.
WHAT IS ENOUGH?
Ask yourself where your happy place is? Mine is when I feel love, express love and am surrounded by love. My other happy place, is when my belly is full, can travel, and am healthy. None of those things I am willing to give up ~ and all of them are things that I don't have to have money to obtain.
What is enough for you?
Monday, January 8, 2018
What Does It Mean To Be Happy?
It's an attitude, a perspective on things. Can you change that? Are you willing too? That's a question I ask myself every now and then. I remind myself to relax, pinpoint my mind on things that make me smile, fill my presence with those things, pick them out of the mess of the day.
A mind and heart is a powerful thing, when we use it to turn our mood, make a smile in spite of sadness, and to consider the ways we can turn our situation around.
HAPPINESS is a FLEETING EMOTION
It is all the more sweeter when you have the balance of sadness, anger, boredom, stepping in and out. When happiness comes in the room, it will be appreciated and savored.
CONTENTEDNESS is the calm sea that breeds HAPPY MOMENTS
Between those moments we claim, wrestle and that make us feel the euphoria of happiness, being content gives you a comfort and peace that is as fulfilling as the seeking of fulfillment.
TURN THAT FROWN UPSIDE DOWN
Make yourself laugh. I personally love comedy. It makes me happy which is why I married a man that is hilarious when he wants to be, which is most of the time. Our date night is usually a comedy or fun action packed movie. When we were scraping nickles together we made it a point to splurge on these.
Thursday, December 21, 2017
Reflect, then Step
Every year since I was a teen, I used December as a time to reflect. I believe it started when my grandmother died. That year was so hard for me since she had been like a 2nd mother to me all of my life.
She died in December, just days before Christmas. It was significant. A time of joy, hope, and I lost her. That year she left, was hard. I promised myself I would survive it.
I did, ONE STEP at A TIME until I got to the NEXT level then the NEXT.
Do your reflection in strength, with knowing that all the challenges were tools to make you stronger, to give you something to learn about yourself, and that you are here, to do a better turn of your challenges next year.
Then let the emotions spill, flush, cleanse you of this year. This year for me was very difficult. I don't want to forget the losses or the gains. I want to gather up those stones to build my NEXT STEP.
THE NEXT LEVEL
Sure, everyone starts with a New Years resolution. This time, start with a NEW YOU resolution. Take one of those losses and ask yourself what you can learn from it, how you want to grow from it. Then take one of your gains, and smile at that, be thankful for it.
Then...step towards your next level.